It’s because,we are going traditional route,not mixture of western conflict , after all West doesn’t pay dowry,nor have Umunna or Umuada. They don’t seek consent of parents, they don’t jua ase nor care about doctrines,they just live life of I don’t Care, and it ends cruelly.
Stop dousing our custom with Manipulated innuendos from the West,they don’t have culture or tradition ,they love the life of come easy ,go easy.
They have defiance,we have respect for elders,we embrace culture and kiss tradition because it’s our mortality compass.
Ifúrú that Ñkwú enú which tradition demands as our oriri nsó (Holy Communion in Churches) , it’s sacred and embodied,where your father shall fill a Cup and hand same to the daughter,who shall as well, hand same over to the prospective Husband so that witnesses abound and enú na Ani agbaa aka ebe ,then the man shall drink it and return the Cup with some thank you money to the father in-law,while holding the wife hand and the Man ewelu blessing nyúa fa Anya without reservation, that’s when you became Son in law,not only to that family but to the Kindred,which is why wherever they see you ,they call you in-law,not in-law to So so and so ,but our in-law.
Now come with me ,the wine must be Ñkwú Enú or Ngwo ,it can never be chemicalized mixture called Fruit Wine or Malt ,check the label on the fruit wine and you see the hazardous components that formed the drink ,let me explain, that’s igwakosi Ngwo Ngwo na Ngwo Ngwo (a mindless mixture of chemicals).
By brining such mixture into starting of your marriage,you confuse Ndi Ichie na Ndi Egede,they don’t recognize the marriage again.
Before they will canonically condemn Ndi mbu na Ndi Egede,ask them the meaning of the Alleged Saints in Christiendom ?
They are same thing, but Mba na Asú na ónu na olú , it’s different dialect for different region and religion.
They call theirs Saint while in Igbo parlance,they are Ndi Mbu,na Ndi Egede.
Marriage became chemically induced by self act of Using manufactured chalice instead of Nke Chukwu kelu naturally called Ñkwú enú ma obu Ngwo.
So if your wife started Acting funny after the manipulate ,just know where it started ,it was effect of martial doxology.
The worst is ,they hand you your Ñkwú enú,which is the First communion served by your father in-law and you stewpidly threw same away ,some boys will pretend as if they sipped, but threw it away ,not knowing they have gbanyeru the marriage Uchu in Capital letters,many of them don’t know the implication of kama Ñkwú ga Eselu Ógó na Ógó,nya bu ite nmanya kuwa .
You used your hand and smash that ite nmanya,but this one is barrage of blessing and you smashed it because of demonic indoctrination from Churches that came with lethal notion.
So breaking the jar of Palm wine heading to in-law is abberation,using your hand to knock down the first communion from your father in-law is a Sacrilege.
Many said it’s to avoid poisoning Which was illusion from Home Movies,and you believed them ?
Even when your wife covered the drink with Handkerchief of Purse or hand ?.
The message is that you distrust the inlaws and you dislike the Wife to be.
Little wonder most marriages doesn’t last even a Year ,then you start hearing about Red Flag,the Flag was raised by the Man voiding the marriage from the get go.
If you still feel strongly about safety, may be they will poison the drink ,even though some of you displayed Cakes on traditional wedding, another mindless import from Oyibo,what has Cake has to do with Igba Ñkwú ? Or they can’t poison cakes ? ,sorry it’s limited to our tradition.
Just introduce another larger Cup with Cover ,so you can dip the Cup of Ñkwú enú inside ,where you transport the drink until it gets to the HUSBAND, then you remove and serve him or he enter parlour(Living room) where only him is seated or with his family,you serve him there .
If anybody wants to poison you ,that’s if you worth it ,they will simply invoke it on the cake with your name ,even if the entire village ate it , but only your name was used to prepare it and it’s like precision bomb,so who do you think will be affected?.
Then you dance at same Igba Ñkwú,how about they use Money soaked na Arusi to spray your face or your wife face and stomach?.
Just know that religion wanted to annihilate tradition,so we can accept that of Caucasians as the authentic way,same way they made us believe that Jesus is white ,Angels white ,while Satan who Bible called Morning star and brutally handsome,they call him Black, they make us believe that white is pure , while Black is evil and we agreed , because we worship them with bended knees.
If you have thrown away your traditional Ñkwú enú during your days ,go back to your in-law ,so he can repeat it na same compound where it took place prior,no matter how far back it happened,go and drink your Palm wine Maka adi ama ama.
Ladies ,no man paid your bride price to turn you to maid or beat you, stop eating that Western indoctrination,you are building your family,you must put in lots of work ,just like one put energy into farming,where you till the land, plant the seed, weed grasses at interval and attend to the need of the farm ,if not there shall be stunted growth.
Man ,no matter what your wife is doing,once you have children,what you are living for is them ,if for the children, if you didn’t find out the faults before having children ,kindly keep it as cross ,let not your wasp decision affect your children.
Even if your wife bring into your home an illegitimate child,once you paid the bride price in full and she was giving to you as Onye be gi , those kids are yours for life ,same way you chop every money that entered your account,same way you cultivate any crop in your farm because na you get the land .
Know it that any child begat illegitimately brings good luck, wealth and divine thumb up,a twist I can’t tell why?
As today is Sunday and I have just delivered my own Eucharist,may I ask for self benediction, having said that ka anyi rio Amala .
I remain Mazi Odera POg JP ,Mkpisi Ndi Egede, Minority opinion writer na mpaghara anyi ,Dibia ónu ike adighi agbalu Ekperima afa ,Obele Nwa Mpa Nnukwu ku na Aka na ónwu agaghi egbunwu ya, Ógba Ntutukó ma obido Igba afa.
Truth is always my standard, accept it in good Faith or I shove it down your throat with smiles.
Ókpókópi onye Ceremisi with Big size Ekpere na Abu, Kam je nalu arú na obara Krist.
Kam mekwe na afa Nna ,na Nke Okpara,na Nke muonso..
