If your wife is not the Person preparing your children for school,maybe she left such job to Maid and you also is not concerned about such undignified upbringing,just know that both of you bu Ezigbote agafu, it’s the duty of your wife to prepare them ,unless she is not well ,that time is when she commune with Children and Natural affection bonds them .
Leaving such intimate moments to maids is like allowing Maid to make your Husband Bed,nature will unhing the hing and nature will empty option B, listen you can never keep a goat in charge of your Ban as expect her to die in Hunger,you can’t allow maid to be making the Bed of your husband and won’t expect her to grace same Bed,my old man said isicha Nri ineta nnu (You taste your delicacy for salt and taste).
Then you as a Father should make it point of duties to take them to school twice in a week or even more ,even when there are school bus,the trick is to have a place and bonding time alone with the kids ,if you are taking them ,do not go with the wife, it’s time out with father and kids,that way kids will see you in their life ,not seeing you as part of the furniture at home.
If you come back home in the evening,gote ife Mgbata (Buy them take home even if na Suya),so your coming home will have inbuilt expectations,even if the thing no come that day ,they have hope and will be expecting your coming back religiously.
Some of you think,I gave your mother money for school fees and provide articles of learnings for you ,Nwanne ina añú Ezi ara,kids don’t see you doing that and they don’t care who brings it, but who delivers it ,the deliverer is the provider.
When you are getting older and kids getting wiser ,they will think you are absent father , because you didn’t let them know you were building them behind the scene,come out from behind and be the center attraction.
Know that running home is the hardest Politics of nature ,your wife naturally wants to milk the love of the Children,whereas you were busy providing to her elements to achieve such ,while using your own hand to slash your own throat.
Know the School your kids attends,not just the name,always visit them ,know their friends and teachers,infact whenever you drop them at school, like it or not ,go and see the teachers and appreciate them with Token and give the friends one or two,that’s when you start balancing home POLITICS and you will silently registering your presence in their Life.
When you buy them something through the wife ,if you come back home ,call the wife and ask her in their presence if she bought the item ? And ask the kids ,hope the item is okay and serving,that act is peripheral and subtle making self relevance in the minds of the kids .
Why is Mazi Odera POg JP saying all this ? Is he trying to divide family?
Now come with me ,hold the helm of my garment and stroll with me …
If you notice ,all kids are trying in life to make Mummy happy and proud,none remembers to make Daddy who is the Pillar that provides for all proud because they think we were absent with their growth,not knowing we did so with unfiltered love ,but since Ugwu mutaru igbaji Ukwu ,we the Men shall muta resting at intervals.
If you gave your wife money to pay school fees , that’s if you can’t make out time to do such ,which I advise you ..make out time and do it ,but if you can’t, if you come back call the kids and ask them before the Wife,hope mummy have paid the school fees you gave her money to pay? She may not like it ,just ask self why is she not liking it ? Because she has stolen your credit,so you can be irrelevant as useless Father,but moving on.
If not when we are getting older ,the kids will only call mummy and ask her how is daddy and many of wives will remember one day in 1973 when she asked you Money to buy Otanjere and you refuse,then she will refer to you as that useless man ,not because you are useless but you failed to give her one time , not withstanding that it wasn’t convenient that period.
Do not worry that they are insatiable,even God the creator did not make them satisfied,they prefer recreating self from original creation,so when they rebel against you, it’s nature but moving on .
Why I am particular this morning is because I am tired of seeing Men abandoned at old age, by kids because mothers made them disregard father’s for her self motive, it’s better you join the POLITICS of self relevance,arupu gi ,runyekwa onwe gi Maka where we are going is old age ,when even your wife will be looking at you as if you are Ochie Motorcycle and kids ana enekwu anyi ka Bicycle mgbe Ochie ,we can make self relevance in older age .
Men start now to play self into the life of your kids , sometime take them out without the wife ,buy them what they want or what you can afford ,don’t always move them around with your wife and kids as she must steal your shine and thunder from them , everything is Politics for old age.
Never ever beat your children because they committed offence when you were absent from home , if they did anything let the mother do the needful, if you come back ,sit then down and counsel them ,if not they will think you are devil and the mother is Angel,which she will report the kid for you to discipline,while you are doing same ,she will come and start pleading na ozugo, asking if you want to kill her child.
Then the child is no longer yours but her,s and the kid will run to her for safety,not knowing she was the plotter and also forming the defender,so let her be the aggressor,if you are around and they commit offence , that’s when you do your part, let’s stop giving our wives platform to use us and shine,then at old age, they will be loving mother and we remain that wicked man .
Imalu asú,use the mortar,but if not sua na Ukwu gi Ógbasaró zim .
I advise as grand Father with Ezigbote street expirience and mountain of degrees na home politics .
I am Mazi Odera POg JP, Mkpisi Ndi Egede, Minority opinion writer na mpaghara anyi, Dibia ónu ike adighi agbalu Ekperima afa ,Obele Nwa Mpa Nnukwu ku na Aka na ónwu agaghi egbunwu ya, Ógba Ntutukó ma obido Igba afa.
Edecham and I move on ..
